Let's Read Volume 3!

I think Carol's characterization is kind of unusual, though. Just overall, it seems to me that femaie characters are often allowed to have male-coded virtues, but not male-coded flaws. A female hero can be brave, strong, noble, etc., but then her flaws will all boil down to "too emotional." So it's striking to me that Carol's flaws basically boil down to "too macho." I assume it has to do with her military background -- she spent pretty much all her adult life in a male-dominated, often highly sexist environment that values aggression and physical toughness, so she spends a lot of time trying to prove herself to be the most aggressive, toughest one ever. In the Avengers issue, her reaction to the court martial is to go "Watch me, I'll show you all!" and it's only when she can't do that she truly falls apart.

Tony doesn't have that drive to prove himself as the awesomest hero ever, mainly because he has already concluded that he isn't. And his stories tend to focus on his emotional vulnerability and messy personal relationships. Which, yeah, very much a gender reversal.